I was shocked, to say the least. I mean this kid was funny, smart, witty, intelligent, and loved by his friends. His dad died our sophomore or junior year (I don't quite remember when) and he took it pretty hard. Casey was his name and we had band together all four years of high school. We also swam together our freshman year. I'm not going to act like I was close to him, because I wasn't. But he was a classmate and we had obviously exchanged many conversations and jokes.
I have to get something off my chest though. Suicide is seriously the most selfish and stupid way to go. It puts your family through more pain than you could ever imagine. It makes the family and friends feel guilty that they didn't see it coming or that they weren't there when needed. They will have to live with that the rest of their lives. Really, that is so selfish. Sure, I feel bad that he felt like that was the only way to handle things, but you have to be a stand-up person and think about others instead of just yourself. If I thought that suicide was the best way to go, guess what? I'd be dead a few times. 2011 was pretty much and awful year. I had tough times growing up, but I know that there is always more to life and that God will lead us through it.
Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
With that said, I have to say that I am very astounded by the way my high school classmates have come together. Our class of 2008 was quite frankly, awesome. We weren't focused on material things, we were almost ALL friends. It didn't matter if you were a 'geek' and were in all AP classes. It didn't matter if you were in the marching band or wind ensemble. It didn't matter if you were the all-star on the sports team. We all communicated in some way. And now, with this sad death, we have come together once again. Take a look at some of the statuses on Facebook that have been posted-
"Chin up HHS Class of 08. The memories we shared with him will carry on."
"don't ever feel like no one cares. look around you, you are always going to be surrounded by people that love you. no matter how far away you are or how long its been since youve seen or spoken to them. remember that everyone ♥"
"i just want to tell all my friends in Havelock that i love you, stay strong and we are ALL going to get through this because we're a family, and families stick together! dont forget that ♥"
"Havelock fam we have to stick together. Please remember you're never alone. Rest in peace."
"Wearing HHS tomorrow as we come together for a member of our ram nation who has fallen. Please know that you can call me if you EVER need anything.. I don't even care what time it is. I love you guys like family."
"Havelock may be a small town, but we all got each others back...near or far, we stick together"
There are countless more in support of our small town and our small high school. It makes me grateful that I came from a place with so many people ready to be supportive and uplifting in difficult times. As Justin Moore said, "A lot of people called it prison when I was growin' up, but these are my roots and this is what I love...I wouldn't trade one single day here in small town USA"